lov·er | ˈlʌvə
1. a partner in a sexual or romantic relationship outside marriage.
2. a person who likes or enjoys a specified thing.
It’s only a short decade plus a few before we turn our desire for affection away from our mother and start to feel those oh so unstable ‘romantic’ stirrings. In western culture this is not only encouraged it is fuelled by romantic myths in the movies, in songs, everywhere! Today I’ll get you behind the songs ‘Lover’, ‘Better Man’, and ‘Red Rose’ which directly explore the expectations I had of romantic love and the pain, awkwardness and disconnection these myths have brought. ‘Hungry Ghost’ is part of today’s theme because several of my partners have been trapped in addiction, and my experience of being a lover is inseparable from my experience of trying to reach someone in so much pain. I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences about what you have expected of romance, or trying to be or find a ‘proper’ lover. Feel free to share in the comments section at the bottom of this page. I know intellectually there is more to feeling loved than romance, but it remains my delightful nemesis. Make sure you check you inbox tomorrow for Day 3 – Mother!
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